Categories: Gettin The Mind Right

Life can be a mess so take the Pressure Off

Happy Monday!

You ever catch yourself looking at someone’s social media profile? Or maybe you run into them somewhere and think, “Wow, they have it all together!” and then spend the next few minutes self-judging all the imperfections in your life?

It’s okay, we all do.

But I can say with 100% confidence that—regardless of how successful or perfect they appear—everyone is a bit of a mess in their own way.

Personally, I’m a mess and I’m proud to admit it as it’s much less stressful that way. For so long I tried to be perfect and “have it all together.” I chased the illusion of perfection. But all I got out of that was to put an enormous amount of pressure and unnecessary stress on myself.

I’ve since learned that when you’re able to stop chasing the illusion of perfection, you become much more aware of what you’re feeling which lets you more quickly ground yourself.

This past week, I’ve been working ceaselessly on getting “In30 Fat Loss” (a completely new concept) ready to open in a new city, in a new state–all while leading our beloved m.e.l.t. through some exciting developments.

It’s a lot, but I love it! This has all been a dream for some time that I just wasn’t ready for, so I kept putting it off. But now, I am as ready as I will ever be. I am able to put together all my experience & lessons from the past, and just GO FOR IT.

The key phrase is “…as I will ever be.” Through any journey that is worthwhile, there’s no perfect time and no point where you are guaranteed smooth sailing. That’s just not how it works.

In fact, you’re probably going to be like I’ve been lately, which is putting in massive amount of time and work with seemingly very little to show for it. The key is to remember that not all progress is readily measurable. As long as you keep yourself pointed in the right direction, you are getting there!

Often we need to fight our own ego, which we commonly refer to as our “smaller self” because it’s detached from reality, unstable and never happy, forcing comparison to others, always wanting more and more. To put it in sports terms, our ego always wants more points on the scoreboard.

3 Ways to Take Pressure Off Yourself

1. Remember that everyone is a mess in their own way: Don’t put unfair expectations on yourself to be perfect, rather focus on imperfect progress.

2. Keep perspective: Often the pressure we put on ourselves can make us feel as if it’s the most stressful thing in the world. Yet in the grand scheme of things so much of our day to day is meaningless compared to what really matters. To get perspective quick, author Mark Manson recommends we ask ourselves in these moments: If I had cancer, would this matter right now? The answer is almost always no and that helps ground us.

3.Acknowledge your progress: We often accomplish way more than we or anyone else acknowledge. Rather than looking at what you didn’t get done or don’t have, start focusing on what you’ve accomplished and what you already have.

Life is hard enough as it is. Why add to it? Why not try to enjoy the ride more?




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