Categories: Gettin The Mind Right

the world needs you

Happy Monday!

You’re acting selfish. People need you right now and you’re wasting your energy on a problem you can’t control.

I’ll never forget those words…I can still hear my mentor Paul Reddick’s voice in a firm, fatherly tone.

Legally I can’t get into details, but let’s just say that something happened, someone got very upset/nasty, and I let it get to me.

At first I couldn’t help it…I was very new entrepreneur who had yet to deal with any real adversity and was just young in general. I was in my head and focusing only on the negative. When I sought Paul’s counsel, I figured he’d give me some tips and a strategy. I did not expect him to put me in my place, so needless to say I was taken aback at first.

But when I thought about it, I realized he was right. There was literally nothing I could have done at that point to make that situation any better. And finally, I recognized I did everything in my control, moved forward, and never looked back.

Just the other week, I was pretty down about something…just felt like no matter what I did, there was “always something” that pushed me back and I felt like there was no end in sight.

I was acting selfish.

But this time, I didn’t need Paul to point it out. The universe kept sending me messages that I couldn’t ignore…one after another. I started receiving random messages or comments from people all over the world telling me how I’ve helped change their life in one way or another, all of them basically reinforcing my efforts.

Having been on both sides of the equation, I’ve realized a truth that everyone—especially those who are fragile and stuck—could use a little encouragement.

The other day I had an interview with a man who had no idea who I was when I called for the interview he set. That was an unmistakable sign that he wasn’t a good fit, so I wished him the best of luck and ended the interview. Within seconds later, he texted me an extremely nasty text, making some horrible accusations and just saying some mean stuff. Followed by an email, more of the same except with middle finger emojis…which I didn’t even know they had?

My immediate reaction was anger but then I realized that there was a different, bigger problem. This person was very angry and had a lot of hate inside. I started to think about some of the tragic events that have happened as of late and how divided our country is becoming.

In that moment, I had a realization.

Not only is it unwise to be selfish/emotional about stuff like this…I can’t afford to be. But it’s not just me. We all need to make an effort on this.

Today I am calling on you, not for me – but for us as people. I want to encourage all of us to make a difference.

Of course it’s okay to get upset and deal with what’s going on in the world, but don’t let it consume you.
Take the time to focus on the here and now, and what you can control:

  • Continue to take care of your health first, as it’s literally your oxygen
  • Send someone a random, uplifting and sincere text, email, or other form of message to encourage them
  • Share empowering posts on Facebook, such as posts of you taking care of your health and motivating/uplifting messages. “Like” other’s successes.
  • Recognize the good in the world; for example, look into your child’s eyes, notice and thank someone who held the door open for you, and so on.
  • Pay it forward: buy someone else in line a coffee, go out of your way to give your time or do a kind deed.

And let me be clear, I’m not Mother Teresa and I don’t expect you to be either. No one is perfect, and no one should try to be. But I know from personal experience that by doing deeds like this, you will feel better.  And there’s nothing wrong with feeling a bit of uplift yourself while you try to encourage others.

Here’s a quote that really hit home for me….that I think speaks to everything here:

“Be the person you needed when you were younger.”

NEVER underestimate the impact you can make.


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