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How to Overcome Fear

Happy Monday!


Fear.  The more you allow it to occupy space in your head, the more likely you are to manifest it into reality.


Biologically speaking, fear serves a function: it keeps us alive. It serves as a filter to prevent us from doing things that can cause us real harm. But as life has become easier for us, in the sense that we’re not facing actual life or death situations daily, this fear mechanism confuses new/different/adversity with harm. This creates the equation of Fear + Anxiety = Inaction.


To make matters worse, we are constantly bombarded with sensationalized headlines everywhere we turn – on TV, Radio, Phones, & Social Media. The constant barrage of gloom and doom makes it feel as though it’s best to “lay low” and keep ourselves safe. But that perception is clearly wrong, and makes us put limits on ourselves and keeps us from living the life that we want.


So, if it’s a part of our biology and everywhere – how do we overcome fear?


First and foremost realize YOU get to decide whether or not you want to live in fear. Think back to a time you were really scared of something – starting high school, learning to drive, starting your first job, joining a new gym, etc.  Ask yourself: Did it kill me?


Clearly not, since you’re reading this. And even if it didn’t go smoothly, we can at least agree it wasn’t as bad as you thought it was going to be. Our natural reaction is to put these fears/unknowns onto pedestal and minimize ourselves.


Life is too short for that nonsense.


Attack your fears! But do so in a strategic way.  Start by writing down all your fears, anything that could go wrong and itemized them.


For each item, ask yourself: If this were to occur, how could that serve (benefit) me?


The way to eliminate fear, as Dr. John DeMartini would say, is to equilibrate it—that is, bring it into balance—by finding the benefit in that fear.


This is not an easy process, but the more you do it, the quicker you are able to recognize the positive in any situation so you can move forward. In the short term it might be easier to not take action, but the fear will only linger, grow and in some way enter your reality.


I recently heard ONIT CEO Aubrey Marcus say something along the lines of “You don’t make a sword without a lot of heat and hammering.”


We all want to have that sword – but the real prize is the work that goes into eliminating obstacles placed in the way of getting to that sword. It’s the process and the journey that helps us grow into what we need to become.


Don’t be a victim of fear, take control and OWN it.


You CAN DO IT. I believe it 100% and if I can help in anyway, please feel free to reach out.








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