Categories: Gettin The Mind Right


Happy Monday!

Have you ever set a goal to improve a specific area of your life and worked really hard at it only to find yourself frustrated? Feeling like all your hard work was for nothing and not seeing the results you expected?


When this happens, it’s important to acknowledge that you cannot override years (sometimes even a lifetime) of poor decisions in just a few months or even a year or two of dedication.


I know that’s a tough pill to swallow but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
We just need to remember: Life is Lived in the Journey.


Think about it: you have a lot going on with family, work and other responsibilities. How much time are you REALLY able to dedicate to your goal? In fitness, workouts take anywhere from 30-90 minutes. That’s a tiny fraction of your day. And regarding nutrition: if you’re really motivated you’re part of the 1% who preps their food each day and even then, you’re eating 3-6 times/day. You can’t just erase years and years of unhelpful choices. Those behaviors are wired into our being.


Malcolm Gladwell wrote that it takes 10,000 hours to be an expert in any given subject. You don’t need to be an expert on fitness or nutrition, but it’s going to take that long—if not longer—to rewrite years of doing something completely different. There are 8,760 hours in a year…how many years did you not follow this specific plan?


Too often we expect that because we have a goal and have been working hard at that goal, we find ourselves frustrated when inevitable setbacks occur. Don’t let this discourage you – this is not a bad thing, It’s just how things work. So understand that–and alter your expectations.


Keep Moving in the Right Direction

The good news is that you are committed to sustaining lifelong changes. If you follow a plan consistently, you’ll find that when you do have setbacks, they will be shorter.


This is why we shouldn’t chase goals. We should have goals, but use them to set a path, not the destination! A far better indicator of our success is continuing our journey in the right direction–NOT if we’ve arrived at our destination! Or otherwise you’ll be like that annoying kid in the back seat on a road trip, asking his parents over and over, “ARE WE THERE YET???”


Give yourself credit for all your efforts!  Do NOT self-shame for being a normal and imperfect human!


Find the “invisible” progress: Do you feel better overall than you did before? How would the previous version of you have handled this setback? You’ll find you now have more resources and experiences to get your journey back on course faster than before, and that is where the real success lies!






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