Categories: Gettin The Mind Right

Happy Monday!

(This week I am taking the opportunity to feature a favorite post from the earlier days of m.e.l.t. While this post is not new, I hope you find that the message still resonates and is of value. Enjoy!  JC)


I wish I could be like …

I don’t have enough…

I am too …

Typically the answers to those questions result in a mindset where you never feel like you HAVE enough or ARE enough. I call it a scarcity mindset, because it makes us hyper-aware of what we lack–or what we perceive we lack.

I’d argue we developed this mindset from our ancestors who had to be hyper-aware of their limitations and space as they had to fight for their lives every single day. Comparing yourself to what someone else was doing and striving to achieve a similar level could mean success or failure, life or death.

While our world has certainly evolved beyond those conditions, the scarcity mindset couldn’t be more present.

Too often we compare ourselves to people we see on social media, television, and magazines–and we come up short.

I’m not preaching here, either. I can be just as guilty of falling into the scarcity mindset–it happens to all of us when we do too much comparing.

Simple truths that have helped me move further away from the scarcity mindset:


  • When you compare yourself to others, you have no idea what is really going on behind the scenes. Not one person in this world is always happy, positive and perfect. EVERYONE deals with piles of crap, has their own insecurities, and sometimes struggles with a scarcity mindset.


  • Next time you find yourself putting someone on a pedestal, immediately search for the negative traits that person has to balance out your perceptions. Then, think deeply of instances where you demonstrated both the positive and negative traits you’ve perceived from this person. This process brings you to balance and set your mind free of any unfair comparison – because EVERY comparison is unfair unless you look at both the good & the bad.


  • Another trap we can fall into is expecting perfect outcomes and then comparing our reality to those fantasies.  Every single decision, event, person, thing (you name it) has a positive and negative charge – good and bad. But too often we look at situations through the lens of negativity because we are comparing it to what we think it should be. That leaves us imbalanced, and with a scarcity (not enough) mindset.


So next time you find yourself upset about a situation, immediately search for the positive and the negatives. There will always be crappy situations; it’s unavoidable. But the quicker you can unmask those crappy situations for what they are, the less depression, anger, fear, & anxiety you’ll feel. You will be able to balance the positive and negatives and banish the scarcity mindset.





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