Categories: Gettin The Mind Right

2 Things You Need To Remember

Happy Monday!

(This week I am taking the opportunity to feature a favorite post from the earlier days of m.e.l.t. While this post is not new, I hope you find that the message still resonates and is of value. Enjoy!  JC)

Good morning!

No matter what obstacles you encounter in your daily life, there are two things you need to remember:

1. Whatever it is, it’s not as bad as you think

2. This too, shall pass

For instance, when you see a coach demo an exercise you have never done, it’s very easy to think, “I could NEVER do that!”  We see and hear this all the time from our clients. Yet within minutes, they are doing the movement or a regression close to it.

Remember that 99% of the time, the following 2 basic rules apply:


1. Whatever It Is, It’s Not As Bad As You Think

Have you ever had to speak in public?

I LOVE getting in front of huge groups, but I didn’t always feel that way. Six years ago before my first speaking engagement, I was so nervous I made my uncle watch me practice presenting every night of the week leading up to the engagement. I even filmed myself speaking. Yet after all that practicing, I still was terrified when I got called up.

Then something crazy happened as I started speaking: I didn’t get tomatoes thrown at me—and I didn’t die.  I was still alive.  Today, I have no nervous feelings–I’m just pumped up with great energy, happy at getting to share an important message with a crowd!

The only way to overcome fear is to face it head on. Like everything else in life, your strength–mental, physical, and spiritual–grows with repetition. The more you do it, the better you get.

The bottom line is we have the tendency to build things up in our heads, creating limitations that do NOT exist and trapping ourselves into thinking that things can never be different.  But you are NOT stuck to most things in life; you have the ability to change for the better.


2. This Too, Shall Pass

Navy Seals train their warriors to seek out their “20x factor.” The 20x factor takes you out of your head and forces you to realize of just how much you are truly capable.

So when you’re at the end of a killer training set, you’re dripping sweat, your heart is racing like a Formula 1, and your body is burning like a log in a fireplace, naturally you think it’s the worst thing ever.  But I am telling you that however bad you think it is, you can actually do MORE. And when the set is over, the sweat eventually stops dripping, your heart rate slows and the burning goes away.  It passes.


First, Take a Deep Breath and Smile…

Next time you find yourself in a situation where you think the world is ending, take a deep breath, SMILE, and challenge yourself to beat the situation. For example, in an exercise set, don’t stop and when the set is over.  Force yourself to hold or continue reps for another 5-10 seconds–just to prove you can do more.

If it’s a stressful work situation, take that deep breath and smile and then spend a moment doing something that helps you clear your head.  For me, that something is exercise or meditation. And when you bring your focus back, you’ll realize that the situation no longer seems as bad as you thought.

Remember, like everything else in life, your strength (mental, physical & spiritual) grows with repetition – the more you work at it, the better you get. Don’t think if you try these things only once or twice, for a week or two, that it will come easily.  Nothing great comes easily.  But continue to work at it and you’ll be amazed at how much you are capable of.

You are above average, don’t forget it!




Joe Carabase is an Entrepreneur, Coach and Author. Check out his latest book here. You can follow @joecarabase on Instagram and Facebook for more inspiring content! 



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